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My husband and I have been married for four years. Our marriage has lost that spark. I recently finished college and I am now working 6 days a week. I use to do all the house chores plus the chores outside. Now I feel overloaded. I've tried to get my husband to help but we usually end up not talking to each other. We have had a great marriage before. We hardly ever fought. I feel like we have grown apart from each other. We both realize we lost something but we don't know what to do.
Some people get along fine until they have to actually figure out how to resolve a conflict. If you are both working, then I imagine that you could pay for someone else to do the chores he won't do and you are tired of doing. I realized that it might mean that you couldn't go on as nice a vacation or give as nice gifts to each other, but you would still have a relationship. Just because you have chosen to work 6 days a week doesn't necessarily mean that now he should be doing house-hold chores that he didn't do before. I have a lady come to my house four hours every other week. She is great. I get to have a life, she makes a little income and my husband doesn't get nagged at. Let me know what you think about that idea. Dr. Ginger
Dr. Ginger Gabriel, Ph.D., M.F.T., is an author and speaker as well as a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in California. With Master of Arts degrees in counseling and missions and a Ph.D. in psychology, she has traveled to Asia, the Middle East and throughout North American giving her four-to fifteen-hour relationship and counseling skill-building seminars.
Her favorite pastimes are kayaking, quilting, hiking and reading novels. She is married to Dr. Stan Gabriel. They have three children and three grandchildren.