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My husband of twelve years is becoming very distant, non-communicative and unaffectionate towards myself and our children. There is very little communication between us. I feel I give to him all the time and he takes and doesn't give back. There is no romance anymore, and sex just feels like another chore to me. I feel we are headed for a breakup. I know we need counselling, but I think we have gone beyond that. I feel unhappy all the time, lonely and depressed (there is no other woman involved).
It is never too late for counselling. Sometimes when I have a couple come in I can figure out pretty soon what is going on. Sometimes its drugs, sometimes pornography, sometimes a deep woundedness, lack of communication tools, etc. If nothing else the partner who wants to grow can find ways to get on with their life, even if the partner isn't interested and sometimes it may be best to break up. I like to explore all the options before papers are filed, but I had one couple come to the signing day before they came for counselling. When the man found out what it was going to cost him to be divorced, he began to do his work in our sessions and they are still together and doing well.